Motivational speaker Iyanla Vanzant  (pictured above) hosts a fascinating show on OWN:  “Iyanla, Fix My Life.”

Oprah‘s got one superb day of programming: “Super Soul Sunday,” for folks who can’t make it to chutch, to “Oprah’s Master Class,” for masochistic types eager to hear celebs bragging about their fame.

Iyanla, in a recent “fix-her-upper,” scrutinized how women self-sabotage after wading into the dating pool. She spun the fear of intimacy — “into me see” — and shared three words to attract and deceive, er, retain men: “Affirm, acknowledge, appreciate.” A Triple A club to join, and membership doesn’t cost a thing.

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